Goal setting is one thing, but understanding why we want or need them is another story.

When I coach my clients, I always go through the what, the why, and the how. We all get motivated at times, but that motivation doesn’t always stick. So, what do we do when motivation fluctuates?

I always say: Motivation fluctuates, but discipline sticks.

When we use the word discipline, the first thing that often comes to mind is being told off or imagining a boring journey ahead until we reach our end goal. However, I don’t believe we should live solely to achieve that one thing. We need to learn to enjoy the journey, not just the destination.

Blüm also promotes healing from the inside out, and we do the same with our goals.

What Steps Do You Go Through to Set Goals?
The Blüm Method, which I use on my retreats and in my workshops.

THE WHAT

Visualisation and Feeling

We first connect to how you would feel if you achieved this goal. Visualize in detail the emotions you would experience, how you would look, and who would be surrounding you. It's about connecting to a feeling you can hold onto, which becomes important when motivation starts to fluctuate.

THE WHY

Why Do You Want This Goal?

Is it for you? Release the opinions of others and the need for external praise. Would you still be happy achieving this without validation from others?

Why haven’t you started pursuing this yet? What are the physical and mental blocks?

And for my favorite part—VALUES. I believe we should all take time to identify the values that most align with us. This helps with decision-making, especially when you reach a slump and question why you’re doing this.

- What would a patient person do in this situation?

- What would a persistent person do?

THE HOW

This is where habits come into play—not just habits, but micro habits. These are the invisible ones that may feel like you’re not making progress but, over time, make the biggest difference.

These are the habits we practice repeatedly until they become automatic, unconscious actions.

For example, if your goal is to be kinder to yourself, how can you incorporate mindful practices and gratitude into your day?

Attach these practices to a tangible object or an existing habit you’ve already perfected. For instance, when drinking your coffee, put your phone away and set your intentions—even if it’s just for 2-5 minutes. Build small, achievable lifestyle changes.

Last but not least, don’t be too hard on yourself. If you forget one day or encounter a roadblock, give yourself a moment. Tweak your routine to better suit the version of yourself you want to become.

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